Meeting #812
The review of the 812th meeting, built around the theme of marriage, covered four prepared speeches: Stella on the phases of a relationship, Olivia on two dating reality shows and what makes people happy in love, Angie on why people fear marriage, and Brent on whether Chinese women face unfair treatment, prompted by the backlash against comedian Yang Li. The table topics section pressed married members on questions like whether they regret getting married, and the meeting itself was held entirely online, with some participants joining while traveling or in quarantine.
From the group chat
“链接: https://pan.baidu.com/s/1o9F6h3SsclqMbKgoGmQBPw 提取码: mkvc”
“Now it’s the 4th IE from Min to Brent”
“General Evaluation from Bob”
The club posted its own write-up that week. Some of what it said, in the words it used:
Stella really treasures her married life. Even sometimes it was troublesome, but a bowl of fried rice made by her husband would make her smile like a flower.
Marriage Story
I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.
I will trust you and honor you.
I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will love you faithfully.
Through the best and the worst,
Through the difficult and the easy,
what may come I will always be there.
SZTM 812th Meeting Review
812th SZTM 会议回顾，我们这里三个点供大家略读（Wait! 这次婚姻主题，speech 精彩内容怎么能错过，都给你整理好了，快速时代，还是要往下慢慢划~）
1、Table Topic 主题“Marriage”，4 个 prepared speakers 也不约而同选择了爱情、婚姻以及女性平等相关主题，点评的各位也是单刀切入，火花四溅；
2、Table Topic 环节，劲爆提问，直指人心，已婚人士坦诚、幽默地分享，气质拿捏地死死的；
3、2022 年首次线上会议，完全即兴无彩排，大家的评论是：线上能达到这个连贯程度和热烈氛围，相当不错。
嗯！不夸张地说，这是我目前为止参与过的内容最连贯、深入、热烈的头马会议之一！
Prepared Speech“1+1>2”
——from Stella
Stella shared us with the 5 phases of relationship and the magic of “1+1> 2”.
Dear friends, no matter you are married or not, you are definitely in the relationship, because relationships are existed between or among lovers, colleagues, friends, kids, even your pets, dogs and cats.
No matter what phases you are under, hope you can learn more, know more about where you are. Only if you can see where you are in the relationship, you will have better solution to move on, and hope all of us can make the math 1+1> 2!
The Value of Love——from Olivia
Olivia introduced two dating reality shows which are so hot and interesting because those shows reflect different cultures and value of love in different countries.
She also gave us three useful suggestions to be happy and loved.
First, you must have the ability to love yourself and make yourself happy.
Second, be confident and pursuit the things you love.
Third, find out what you want most, no matter it is money, personality or good looking. There is no perfect partner in the reality. Accepting the imperfections in the love will make you happy.
‘I’m Terrified of Getting Married!’ But, why?!
——from Angie
What a relief! Angie was not terrified of getting married and she analyzed the reasons for people’s fear of marriage critically.
She did strike a chord with almost everyone. When the couple get the marriage certificate, they have to share the joint property, support each other’s parents, and be loyal to each other in many aspects, not to mention the impact of having children on women’s career, the balance between work and life and the midlife crisis.
With the increase of divorce rate, it seems marriage is less necessary than it used to be and more types of relations will happen. Some people choose to get married, some choose to live together but not married or live alone. Maybe open marriage or even multilateral marriage will be common.
Choose either way is happy, as long as you accept it. Just live the way you want.
Does Chinese Female Suffer Unfair Treatment?
——from Brent
Brent started with the fact that the Talk Show actor Yang Li, provoked big conflict between male and female. Recently, some companies had to withdraw the advertisements performed by her upon the protest from the male consumers.
He found, although there is less serious unfairness to the female in big cities, there should be exposure for this issue on both news and social media platform from time to time, physiologically, the male is stronger than the female and holds superior status as a matter of fact.
Our IEs delivered fruitful comments. Especially Min suggested Brent to listen to more girls’ opinions, because if the sample range is not large enough, there may be some deviations in the results.
Gossip Time of MarriageTable Topic
How can you decide he or she is the one?
What is the biggest difference between single and married life?
Do you regret getting married?
Do you ever think about divorce?
Describe the moment that do you want a divorce?
Oh my God!!! Those questions are all traps! They really give rise to self doubt. But all the speakers told us the true feelings and luckily no one regrets about getting married.
Jane told us that you should choose the one who gives you total freedom to be yourself.
Stella really treasures her married life. Even sometimes it was troublesome, but a bowl of fried rice made by her husband would make her smile like a flower.
Online Meeting
Thank you all for participating in this online sharing. Some are in quarantine, some are on the way towards home, and some are still working in the office, but we still give ourselves some space to sort out and share our lives.
【813th SZTM Dream Job】
没有人是工作狂，
但也没有人愿意输。
一天的绝大多数时间，
我们忙工作，
想把人生过得很带劲儿；
却少有时间思考，
我们到底在忙什么？
什么是理想工作？
周二晚，欢迎来分享你对工作的看法~
时间：2022 年 1 月 18 日
周二晚，19:00-21:15
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